Research for coaches: the evidence base for coaching

coaching research: university

This is, we hope, a really helpful page of research for coaches, coaching students, and those who want to understand the evidence base for coaching and associate areas of personal and professional development, leadership and behavioural change. This is a continually updated page containing details of some of the best and most relevant research into … Read more

The importance of listening skills

listening skills

As a coach, I know the importance of listening skills and the value of deep and active listening in particular. I know the importance of suspending judgment and I know how critical it is to remove ones own’s biases, interests and concerns from coaching conversations. Yet despite all that knowledge, I know there are times … Read more

How to listen to unlock: a questioning technique to get someone unstuck

Listen to unlock: here is Jennifer Garvey Berger with a really useful questioning and – perhaps more importantly – listening technique that works when you are dealing with somebody who can’t move forward to resolve a problem or issue.

The 3 stages of the listen to unlock technique

1. Ask different questions that push to the edges of what is at stake.

This is about getting past the surface reasons that are being given for not solving the problem. It involves questions like:

  • What is at risk here for you?
  • What is the real issue with this for you?
  • What is there about this that you fear?

2. Ask the question several times focusing on what it means for the person and how they are making sense of the problem.

Here you are looking to delve deeper with each asking of the question.

For example, the answer to the question ‘what is at risk here for you?’ might be:

“If I do this I may risk damaging my relationship with the head of that part of the business.”

You should then ask: “So what is at risk for you if you damage that relationship?

If the answer is: “It may mean others are influenced against me,” the next question is “So, what is at risk for you if others are influenced against you?

And so on…

3. Get to the boundary and find the equals.

Eventually your questions take your counterpart to the point where there is nowhere else to go, i.e. where there is no deeper answer or explanation.

So, following through on the example above, you might get to point where the answer is: “it will mean that nobody likes me.”

You can test it further, but an answer like that is likely to signpost the boundary of the issue and what it equals – i.e. what it means for the person or what else is bound up with it at a personal level.

It is with this knowledge you can start to construct potential solutions that take into account these deep seated concerns.

What is coaching? How coaching differs from other helping activities

what is coaching?

So what is coaching and why should you care? SelfDeterminedLife.coms is aimed at helping individuals, teams and leaders improve performance, well-being and quality of life, both inside and outside the workplace. And there is a strong focus, within these pages, on coaching as the best way to facilitate improvement, wellbeing and growth. So if I’m … Read more

How effective is coaching in the workplace?

coaching in the workplace

There are certain questions that are bound to be uppermost in the mind of anybody who is considering the introduction of coaching in the workplace. These might include: You’ll find plenty of answers to these questions online, published by various interested parties, usually those promoting workplace coaching in general or their own coaching services particular. … Read more